Getting Old Sucks!

“Every time I look in the mirror

All these lines on my face getting clearer

The past is gone

It went by, like dusk to dawn

Isn’t that the way

Everybody’s got their dues in life to pay

Yeah, I know nobody knows

Where it comes and where it goes

I know it’s everybody’s sin

You got to lose to know how to win

Half my life’s

In books’ written pages

Lived and learned from fools and

From sages

You know it’s true

All the things come back to you

Sing with me, sing for the year

Sing for the laughter, sing for the tear

Sing with me just for today

Maybe tomorrow, the good lord will take you away

Dream on, dream on,

Until all your dreams come true.”

(Aerosmith, 1976)

Unfortunately, the phrase, “it might have been…” describes a lot of our lives. As we grow old, sometimes we ruminate over a life of unfulfilled dreams for a number of reasons:

  • Financial challenges
  • Wasted personal or business opportunities from when we were young, and had more energy, resources, and time
  • Family priorities
  • Not getting the best or the “right” (expensive) higher education
  • A broken home
  • Exclusions from opportunities because of race, nationality, religion, sex or physical/mental challenges
  • Substance or alcohol abuse
  • A lack of self-confidence
  • Depression coupled with mental paralysis
  • An inadequate moral support system

But you know something? It’s never too late to reach to the top, to realize your innermost desires or to actualize your lifelong dreams that you’ve had swimming around in the back of your mind since you were a young kid, just green behind the ears.

As Yogi said, “The game’s not over until it’s over and the fat lady sings!”

Whether you just turned 21 or 41, just reached 65 or 85, or if you’ve moved beyond 100 years (congratulations!), and you’re feeling old? It doesn’t matter!

I know aging sucks but age is just a number. It’s just a state of mind!

Keep your emotions in check, always feel in love, and think: “May I stay forever young!”

Remember, the most successful people are those who have reinvented themselves, experienced repeated failures and yet despite these challenges they stayed true to themselves, committed, passionate, persistent and always keeping “the eye of the tiger!”

And in spite of a perception by others that the odds were not in their favor, I say “humbug!” The odds are always in your favor!

More than anything else, it’s a state of mind and a “never-give-up” attitude — even when things look the darkest. “What goes down, must come up” no matter what your numerical age! It’s called Reverse Gravity.

Tried, failed, and then succeeded. Tried, failed, and then succeeded. It’s a tale as old as time.

There are many models of inspiration that no matter how old they were and no matter how many naysayers said, “Give it up, you’re way too old! Sit out your remaining years — leave innovation, new ideas and new inventions to the younger population,” they maintained confident in their abilities and came out on top!

To name a few…

Julia Child. American author, chef and television personality who made French cuisine accessible to the American public. Her culinary career launched at 50!

Elizabeth Jolley. Critically-acclaimed Australian novelist that wrote extensively about alienation, loneliness, abandonment and entrapment. Her first book was published at 53!

Mary Wesley. One of England’s most famous novelists, having sold 3 million copies of her novels, including 10 bestsellers. Her first bestseller was 71 years old!

Harlan Sanders. Better known as, “Colonel Sanders.” Founded the fast food restaurant chain Kentucky Fried Chicken. Opened his first franchise when he was 62 years old!

Laura Ingalls Wilder. A 19th century American author that wrote the Little House on the Prairie children’s novel series when she was 65 years old that later became a hit TV series.

Anna Mary Robertson Moses. Better known as “Grandma Moses.” An acclaimed American folk artist that began painting diligently and passionately at the youthful age of 78 years!

A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada. Founded the International Society for Krishna Consciousness better known as the “Hare Krishna Movement” (ISKCON) at the age of 70 years old!

Edmond Hoyle.  A 19th-century Brit who wrote the rules of card games at the age of 69, derivative of the famed expression, “According to Hoyle.”

Note:  69 was very, very old in early 18th-century England, when the average life expectancy was about 35 to 40 years old.

Jack Cover. A nuclear physicist who, at the age of 50, invented the electroshock weapon — the taser gun — with a purpose of incapacitating assailants without killing them, back in 1970.

Ronald Reagan. Ran for public office at 55 years of age for the first time and won as governor of California. Sixteen days shy of his 70th birthday, Ronald Reagan was sworn in as the 40th president of United States, the oldest President in United State history.

Jack Lalanne. An American fitness, exercise and nutritional expert known as “the godfather of fitness.” At 51 years old, Lalanne beat the then 21-year-old Arnold Schwarzenegger to a fitness contest, and won! Lalanne died in 2011 at the age of 96 after developing pneumonia, yet he was still in the physical shape of a healthy 50-year-old!

Will your name be on this list? I certainly hope so.

Peace, Grace, Love, and Namasgar,

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